Not every marriage has to end in a catastrophic implosion, where you say mean and horrible things to each other and then put on your sparring gloves for your day in court. There are many marriages that just end for good or okay reasons. Sometimes we just realize that we really aren’t compatible through time as sometimes we just drift apart and we no longer find the other person attractive. There may also be reasons that can’t be helped, such as your spouse heading down a spiral of addiction or some other issue. It could also be that you mutually agree that you cannot go on because of deeply differing world views and goals. So rather than reading another piece about bad breakups and divorces, here are some reasons it’s okay to get a divorce over.
Changing through age
We all change as human beings, as we get older. You may be in your 40s, 50s, or 60s. You’re not the same as you were when you were in your 20s or even 30s. So this is not going to come as a surprise to you to read that, you will not be able to always share the same mental space either. You may be in the right mental space for your age and your spouse might not be. You could be thinking about your retirement in 10-20 years’ time and they may still be thinking like they were in their 20s. So life priorities may clash as you change through your age. It’s kind of clear in this sense that you need to consider going your separate ways when you really do not consider your spouse as someone you can or want to grow old with.
If this is the case you should speak with Divorce Lawyers that can build a viable case on these lines. The judge will want to know what specifically you find wrong with the relationship and the other person. The lawyers can build a case that your life goals and futures do not merge and it’s for your own sake that you want to get a divorce.
You’re no longer attracted to them
Tastes change and so does our attraction to our spouse. There is nothing wrong with just admitting that you are no longer finding your spouse alluring, sexually attractive or they don’t stir your mental juices either. If someone who you were excited to see now is a dread to meet, then it’s okay to just admit that you have lost that spark. If your spouse does not stimulate you then you can’t force yourself to like them. Don’t try to force it either, because attraction is simply a chemical reaction to the sight, smell, and touch of the other.
There are some great reasons to get divorced such as finding your partner has cheated. You may feel guilty about wanting a divorce because you don’t find your spouse attractive anymore but this is incorrect. It’s totally okay to want a divorce if this is the case and you are not stimulated by them anymore.